Marriage is For Me !
.. No , I have never been married . But , I respect and admire my friends and family who are married . I believe that it is for the best for all that are concerned .
.. Yea , I am lonely . I have always wished to find the right person . God willing , I will . When that will happen , I do not know . But , I believe that it will happen ..
.. I am an idealist . I always have been . Even after all the things that I have been through down through the years , you might think that I may well be a cynic . I am not . I would rather live and die as an idealist , than to live one day as a cynic .
.. Love can come suddendly . It can , as I have found , come softly (from Jeannette Oke ‘ s books and movies) . Being friends first helps . But it is not always necessary .
.. Are there fears and anxieties ? Sure . Finding the right person , first of all . Not to be picky , no . I come with baggage . In my case , also a hot fuse . That is what scares me to death , more than anything else . I do not want to hurt the people that I care about , because I am a hot head ..
.. You might think that I had gotten advice from my parents . I thought that I had not . Then I realized that it was right in front of me . It was their example . They were not perfect . Far from it . But they made it work … every day , for almost 48 years . May God Bless them Always !
.. I believe that it takes not being selfish , but being selfless enough . A lot more than that . If one is too selfish , well , then , ….
Marriage is about family.
.. I realized that I had seen my parent ‘ s advice . My father was not a preacher . Not even close . A scoutmaster , yes . Nothing made him more proud than when both my brother John and I earned our Eagle Scout badges . It did not always make it easy to deal with a father and a scoutmaster . But , I finally understood . I wanted to achieve , but also did not want to embarass him . I did not . Generally , not publically . Sometimes , in private .
.. Yea , my father and I look a lot alike . But we are very different people . He passed away in June of 2005 . I think about him every day . Every day . My mom , too . My father was up – from – the – boostraps working class , not the best in school , and worked his fanny off to become a top flight electical engineer . Also , a top – flight technical writer . He was a 32nd degree FreeMason by his mid40s , and could have gone higher . Much higher .
.. What matter more . Our family . Not just Mom . My sister , Karen , my brother John , and me . Indian Guides . Boy Scouts . Church . American Legion . A Master Gardener , in retirement . All of that . One heck of an example . But not perfect , either .
.. God , I miss my mother . She passed away in January of 2000 . A top flight RN for almost 40 years . Most of her career was spent in maternity nursing at Fairview Hospital in Cleveland , Ohio . She was upper middle – class , and had to defy my grandmother to take the exams to enter nursing school . Doing it anytime took guts . Doing it in the early 1950s took a lot more guts .
.. Does it scare me ? Yes , it does . But , not as much as one might think . Even the likelyhood or possibility of being a step – parent . Who knows . Being an excellent role model matters the most . Especially in this day and age .
.. No , I am not that open . I am still shy . But our world has changed so much , and is still changing . Hopefully for the better . Making sure that technology is an aid , and not a crutch , is helpful .
.. Both are married . One for 18 years , the other for almost 35 years . Great job , you too . Especially with my nieces and nephew . My nephew is a newlywed . I wonder how my sister feels about becoming a Grandmaw [ha!ha!] . Just kidding , Sis ! I think that it would be great .
the ” M ” word
.. Do I wish I have talked to them about the ” M ” word ? Yea , I do . Those who know me would not be surprised that I did not . I am extraordinarily painfully shy . Still am . The experience of these years has helped to loosen some of the shyness .
.. No true relationship of love is just about you. Love is about the person you love . It is about being selfless .
.. And , the more that you love that person, the more love you receive . And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.
.. Truly, love and marriage is for you . .